Touching thread jws,I can identify with what your saying.My experiences below
{fore note:because I was Dfed (wrongfully) in early 1992 I was not allowed by the bastard control freak jw elders to learn of my beloved (blind) JW mom's long illness and subsequent death.I wasn't even invited to the funeral.I did not learn EVEN WHAT YEAR [2002] she died until the govt. database came up to speed,and i found out for myself.
Now,yah'll tell me who is this malicious and cruel hearted except the Jehovah's Witnesses cult?
Would even despised extremist organizations like,the Taliban,KKK.,neo-Nazi skinheads,or even Charles Manson do this?
About grieving the dearly departed JW style:
1 Thessalonians 4:13 nt : The Lord's Coming 13My friends, we want you to understand how it will be for those followers who have already died. Then you won't grieve over them and be like people who don't have any hope. ( CEV ){{Then you won't grieve over them.}} The Watchtower's counsel on the grieving process for obedient Jehovah's Witnesses:."we don't grieve like worldings who have no hope''.. About grieving the dearly departed JW style.I know of family's who have never come to terms with their losses because they expect their loved ones to come back in the resurrection any day. That day of horrendous sudden impact to accept that it's all a lie is a ticking time bomb waiting to go off. SURROGATE/DISPLACEMENT RAGE a.k.a. the, "BOMB".....
On the doorstep threshold of of my neighbors and of perfect strangers.....CONVINCED that unless I recruited you,that you and your family members were going to die! Only to learn after the vital youth prime of my life has expired...that this was all a LIE! Not only that,,,but the promise that if i did all this recruiting work,I would be rewarded with eternal youth right here in Bangor Maine. Well,that's all a lie too! Sooo,what do I do now? Don't tell me to get a f**king life and just forget about it! 
